joel: Where were you shamed? I would assume any down votes came for the reason they exist. Many of the users who voted to close posted comment(s) afterwards with explanations. In fact, you were told. You posted "people told me that if I asked this question I should use a different distro". That was not "people", that was one user. That user did not vote to close your question and just offered a personal opinion. You can look at the timeline if you want to see voted to close your question.

No, that is your job. Including basic information such as the model computer, the host operating system, links to where you downloaded software and such are your responsibility. Users donate their time to answer questions. In my case, I spent a short amount of time, then decided to take a pass on helping. Other who may have known the answer may have done the same.

When you first posted your question, I went to the Kali Pre-build Virtual Machines link and clicked on the docs link for Recommended VirtualBox. The first page of the docs link states "Remember the default login is kali for the user and kali for the password!". You posted you tried "kali/kali". So I agree the question needs details like where you download Kali and not doing so make the question lack clarity.