However, I edited the question about three times, as I thought my question gave me answers that I was not expecting (not that they were bad).
You must understand that I spent over 3 hours researching my answer to your question. I had at that point modified my own answer at least 5 times to address your concerns expressed in your comments.
I was ...
Its not a forum, its a Q&A site, and that's where a good chunk of the problem is.
People are not going to be happy if they spent time and effort writing an answer, then finding the question changed... more than once.
There's a term "Chameleon Question" - and even a main meta post about exit strategies
So fundamentally - its ok to refine a question. ...
I'm following the FAQ instructions, but I don't have even the described icon to click to accept the answer.
They didn’t post an answer. They simply left some comments for you. Ask them to post the comment that solved your issue as an answer and then you can check it off as such.
My sense is that we could have handled the subject thread better.
The question was closed as opinion based. Perhaps that was the closest close reason for other issues people had with the question. I don't actually see a closure reason at all. The question appears on-topic, factually answerable, in-scope, and not opinion-based. Perhaps people are reading ...
From a quick glance over the remaining 20 questions with that tag, it looks like all or nearly all of them are using "load" to mean "CPU load."
I propose that they be re-tagged to "cpu-usage" or "high-cpu-usage".
Then possibly the tag "load" should be blacklisted. Or make it auto-suggest "cpu-usage" when someone types in load.
Why was my question deleted with the "Your answer does not answer the original question" reason?
The answers to the meta question you link to recommend answering the original question first, before including your "however you should be doing this instead" answer:
They're more valid if you answer the surface question, and then solve the “but actually ...